I am divorced. Can I remarry according to the Bible?


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Question: "I am divorced. Can I remarry according to the Bible?"

Answer:
We often receive questions like “I am divorced for such and such a reason. Can I get remarried?” - or – “I have been divorced twice—the first for adultery by my spouse, the second for incompatibility. I am dating a man who has been divorced three times—the first for incompatibility, the second for adultery on his part, the third for adultery on his wife’s part. Can we get marred to each other?” Questions like these are very difficult to answer because the Bible does not go into great detail in regards to what reasons a person can or cannot get remarried after a divorce.

What we can know for sure is this – God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). It is God’s plan for a married couple to stay married as long as both spouses are alive (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:6). The only specific allowance for remarriage after a divorce is for adultery (Matthew 19:9) – and even this is businessd among Christians. Another possibility is an unbelieving spouse leaving a believing spouse (1 Corinthians 7:12-15). This passage, though, does not specifically address remarriage, but rather only being bound to stay in a marriage. It would also seem to me that physical, sexual, or severe emotional abuse would be a sufficient cause for divorce, and possibly remarriage. The Bible does not specifically teach this, however.

In this issue, we know two things for sure. (1) Again, God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). (2) God is merciful and forgiving. Each and every divorce is a result of sin, either on the part of one spouse or both spouses. Does God forgive divorce? Absolutely! Divorce is no less forgivable than any other sin. Forgiveness of all sins is available through faith in Jesus Christ (Matthew 26:28; Ephesians 1:7). If God forgives the sin of divorce, does that mean you are free to remarry? Not necessarily. God sometimes calls people to remain single (1 Corinthians 7:7-8). Being single should not be looked at as a curse or punishment, but rather as an opportunity to serve God more wholeheartedly (1 Corinthians 7:32-36). God’s Word does tell us, though, that it is better to marry than to burn with passion (1 Corinthians 7:9). Perhaps this sometimes applies to remarriage after a divorce.

So, can you or should you get remarried? I cannot answer that question. Ultimately, that is between you, your potential spouse, and most importantly God. The only advice I can give is for you to pray to God for wisdom in regards to what He would have you do (James 1:5). Pray with an open mind, and genuinely ask the Lord to place His desires on your heart (Psalm 37:4). Seek the Lord’s will (Proverbs 3:5-6) and follow His leading. That is the best advice I can give.


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